As we all get comfortable talking about and exploring sex, toys are no longer taboo.

A few years ago, using sex toys was unmentionable — a secret shame. I often heard — and sometimes continue to overhear — that using toys means there is something wrong with you. Many misinformed folks seem to believe that sex toys are unnatural and make our sexual organs adjust to a level of stimulation that human beings cannot give each other. That they desensitize us and make un-assisted sex less satisfactory to our overcharged bodies.

Some people see sex toys as their competition. This ideology comes from shitty, old-ass, misogynistic views about sex. Surprise, surprise, we’re going to talk about feminism.

This shitty worldview stems from patriarchal ideas that women are sexual objects, and female pleasure is meant to stroke male egos rather than simply exist. Toys made for female users de-prioritize male pleasure, and violate the boundaries of hetero-sex — some men can’t help but feel mediocre next to literal fuck machines.

In a world where 67% of women admit to faking an orgasms, pulsating, gyrating silicone has the upper hand. They’re battery powered, made-to-order in the preferred size and color of the Amazon Prime customer, AND they never ask for reciprication. While routine masturbation is good for your sexual health, toys don’t have to take over for human partners. On the contrary, you and your partner’s preferred sex toy can and should be the best dynamic duo since peanut butter and jelly.

Toys are tools, and we must change the way we think about sex in order to realize that. If sex is only about making your partner(s) and yourself achieve a mind-blowing orgasm, then a toy can do your job, no problem. It never gets tired, can be attuned to your partner’s preferences within seconds, and has a level of power + precision that’s enviable. BUT when you rethink sex into an experience — a journey — that relies on the enhanced stimulation provided by toys, along with human connection, intimate knowledge of one another’s bodies, multiple sensations, communication, exploration, etc. then you’re cooking with grease in the bedroom! (or any room).

From ANal to Z

More sex toys exist and are being invented everyday. There’s way too many to cover here, but I hope that this was a satisfying taste of 21st century sexual innovation. We are so creative and insatiable, and that spark that put a man on the moon also puts motorized orgasm machines in the waiting hands of horn-dogs everywhere.

I love to see it, and cannot wait to see more.