hoe tip: fuck on the first date
A little hoe tip: if you’re looking to check somebody out for a long term situation or even a romantic relationship and you’re committed to the hoe lifestyle, you might want to have sex on the very first date. Listen — this tip is entirely dependent on how you feel but I don’t believe in postponing sex just because you believe you should take things slow. Fuck when you want to, and for me that’s always right away. Here is why I do this:
Intentions: if someone just wants to sleep with you, and then BAM they do it, then they’ll leave you alone. Your pride might be bruised for a while but at the very least you didn’t waste your time. Before taking the plunge this is a great time to call in your hoe friends. Hopefully this person has some references, but those are hard to come by with internet dating. Or hopefully they’re honest about their intentions, and you should be honest about yours. The worst thing that can happen is you sleep with somebody else and it just might be a great story, but you haven’t lost anything if you love yourself enough to let sex be sex, and that’s it.
Ideals: if someone was going to lose respect for you because you slept with them on the first date, then that’s their loss. Obviously that’s a close minded person. Pay attention, there’s nothing wrong if your potential-boo doesn’t want to have sex on the first date because they want to take things slow or their not ready yet. Not wanting to have sex if the desire is there doesn’t necessarily mean that someone is judgmental of the hoe-life, hoeing means embracing choice. Ultimately, if both of you want to have sex on the first date, you do, then your wack-ass partner wants to shame you, or losses value for you afterwards, they’re not it at all. We shouldn’t invest our time or the depth of our coochie in anyone who doesn’t respect us for being sexually free and empowered.
Establishing a Baseline: Having sex on the first date can be enlightening on a physical level. It will tell you how sexually compatible you are with someone new — and that is incredibly important. Although nobody should expect to be a perfect puzzle-piece fit on the very first encounter some level of synch is promising for the future. That first time will let you know if someone is receptive to guidance and advice, if they have good bedroom communication, and other simple things like whether or not they like to cuddle. These compatibilities in the bedroom can light new sparks in an already sparkling connection or let you know if it’s not going to work very quickly.
Obviously this is my own little hoe tip and nobody has to follow it but I’ve found it to be incredibly successful and it’s led to some of my most long-lasting and successful relationships, sexual and otherwise. If you’d like to save some time, try this one on for size.
