You need friends, hoe
Hoe-Friend: A pal and confidant who understands the hoe lifestyle and encourages you in your hoe activities.
There is nothing more valuable in your life than good, reliable friends. As a hoe, the same is true and there is nothing better than having friends who you can trust to carry you through the humor, horrors, and horny-debacles that come along with hoe life. I find that having a community of hoes around you, a group of hoe-friends, keeps you right in a world set on leading a hoe dead-wrong.
The primary function of hoe-friends is encouraging accountability and responsibility for each other’s wellbeing. When you don’t have a roommate, a sister, or a full-time bodyguard whose going to check in and make sure you got home safe from a tinder-date, a hoe comes in clutch. A hoe-friend is, first and foremost, someone to share your location with, help you investigate a potential hookup, and keep your head on straight when you are making dick-matized decisions. Meeting and keeping hoe friends is all about community building.
A hoe friend doesn’t necessarily need to be a hoe themselves, just someone who understands and is conscious of a hoe politic — someone who isn’t around to judge, share your business, or make you feel some type of way about your sexuality. Hoe-friends ARE there to tell it like it is, be real about when its time to dump someone, analyze your dates and meet-ups, help compose great sexts, track locations and receive the “got home safe” text, and keep you fulfilled through genuine friendship while you seek out sexual satisfaction.
My hoe friends have always done so much for me and kept me feeling good when I was at my lowest. When I was dating any one of my toxic exes, who was there to tell me exactly how I needed to value myself? A hoe. Who let me have it when I was having dangerously unprotected sex with random hookups because I wasn’t brave enough to ask about protection? A thot. Who listened to me rant about the girl who almost gave me chlamydia and wouldn’t stop talking about her ex (and low-key fetishizing Black women)? A whore. And who volunteered to sit in a restaurant pretending it was a coincidence and provide emotional support on a first date? Actually this was me, but still a hoe showed up.
Ultimately we can hoe all on our own — if you’re reading this then hopefully you’re grown and fully capable of engaging in sex without anyone else getting involved. Having been a hoe on my own, I definitely noticed something lacking and when I had friends to share that aspect of my life with that hole was filled. I was more free because I was grounded by an amazing community of people who believed in me, valued me, and took care of me in my hoe-ness rather than casting judgement on the way I chose to engage sex. I truly believe that having that love and relationship to guide you and model expectations for all other relationships, sexual or otherwise, allows us to go forth and hoe with confidence.
